Lisa MeeeSep 24, 20194 minFitting the Solution to the ProblemOne of the events I help organize each year is a Star Trek convention. People who’ve never been to a Star Trek (or, really, any fan-run s...
Lisa MeeeSep 23, 20196 minProcessing Anger Without Creating TraumaI am afraid of men who yell. It’s a visceral reaction for me, and one that my ex-husband used to be very offended about. He’d ask me to d...
Lisa MeeeSep 22, 20195 minNormalizing TantrumsI happened to be in a breakfast diner this morning and the televisions were playing one of those “gotcha” talk shows. The title of this p...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20193 minThe Power of a Pod“I know this is a tough weekend. I’m going to suggest that David come home tonight. I have to get up early also. But mostly I think you n...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20196 minFalling Apart and Getting it Back TogetherSeven years ago this week my life fell apart. It wasn't sudden or unexpected, not by me anyway. But it still hurt. It started Thursday ...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20195 minTeaching or Learning: How People Treat YouTeaching or Learning It’s often said in coaching and self-help circles that we teach people how to treat us. It’s equally true that peopl...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20194 minDangerous LoveThere is no such thing as safely falling in love. Love changes you. Deeply connecting with another human being is a huge risk to everythi...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20193 minThe Terror and Triumph of Admitting Vulnerable DesiresThe single scariest thing we do as humans is admit our deepest desires. This is terrifying because it reveals a bit about who we are as h...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20198 minBeyond Unicorn HuntingBeyond Unicorn Hunting One of the most common ideas have when deciding to open up an existing relationship is that if they can just find ...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20194 minSoft Nos and Hard SituationsDefending My Boundaries I may be the consent fairy, but that doesn't mean it's always easy for me to defend my own boundaries. A case in ...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20193 minCo-Creation Instead of Just ConsentOne of my nicknames is “the consent fairy,” because I’ve been talking about and teaching techniques for better consent practices in my lo...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20194 minHighlander Rules in RelationshipsThe Dilemma A dear friend asked me to go for a walk and talk about what her son had just told her during a recent visit, that he was bise...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20194 minFeminism and Civil WarMy house has a name: Motteration. My husband’s last name is Mott, and the name is tongue in cheek, a reference to the phrase “do all thin...
Lisa MeeeSep 21, 20192 minI'm Gonna Get Stuff WrongI’ve been terrified to start publishing things on this blog, because I want to write about sensitive topics that are important to me and ...